Learning how never to be ‘the victim’.
The Windrush generation
As a young man, my parents would often say ‘remember the child of who you are’. This was often repeated if they felt you were mixing with dodgy friends or losing your focus at school. Their other regular speech was ‘a good reputation is worth more than silver or gold.’ They were extremely hardworking and they put all their efforts into making sure their children had the best education available to them.
I am a child of the Windrush generation. The Windrush generation arrived in the UK between 1948 and 1973 to help rebuild Britain after the second world war. Most of the migrants came to the UK to work in sectors including manufacturing, public transport and the NHS. They were known to be very hardworking and resilient.
Everyone comes from a background where they have had their successes and failures. The ones who thrive are normally the ones who build on the successes of generations before them and learn from their shortcomings. It’s shocking to see how quickly things can change for the worse when we forget who we are. It’s easy to give up, lose focus and do very little with your life. Sometimes, we just need to be reminded how generations before us battled hard to get this far.
Today, I am reminding myself of the journey it took for me to get to this position. This good position where a child of the Windrush generation can start a business in the UK. We are always looking to offer our services with good intentions and integrity.
Humans and emotions
Sometimes I would catch myself overthinking a troubling situation. It would normally start with looking for a solution but could often descend into a game of worry and self pity. It would eventually shift towards playing the victim and then quitting the fight.
We are ‘thinking creatures’ therefore we have the tendency to go back and look at situations. We experience happiness, hope, excitement, fear, doubt, grief and all other emotions because we are human. Unfortunately, we can also overthink situations and this often creates worry and error in judgement. We can all look back at the same situation and interpret it differently.
It’s time to look at the mirror and remind myself that I am a descendant of a battling people. We don’t do self pity, we’re never too comfortable to fight. It’s in our DNA to work hard and overcome obstacles. It kind of reminds me of one of my favourite poems by D H Lawrence.
The self pity poem by D H Lawrence
I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself.
A small bird will drop frozen dead from a bough
without ever having felt sorry for itself
Thinking like a winner rather than a victim
It’s often a jungle out there and the ignorant will often perish from lack of knowledge. It’s time to gain as much knowledge about the things we need to know and turn our plans into actions. I stand on the shoulders of giants just like you do. The question is, how far are we ready to go?
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